Neurodivergent adults and people stuck in survival/trauma belief loops
I am not a Psychiatrist, who can assign or assess if you have ADHD or AuDHD, if you feel you have these traits, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE, speak to your assigned Medical Provider or GP for further support and investigation.
Adult ADHD/AuDHD
When your brain moves faster than the world expects and you're exhausted from pretending it doesn't.
ADHD showed up early. Chaos, confusion, and a constant sense of not fitting in. There was no one to name it, no framework to explain it. Just a constant mismatch between how you functioned and what the world expected.
But ADHD also gave you advantages: creative leaps, pattern recognition, emotional depth. If those strengths had been recognized earlier, everything could have been different.
You're not broken. Your brain just works differently and nobody taught you how to navigate a world built for neurotypical people.
WHAT IS ADHD IN ADULTS?
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ADHD isn't a deficit. It's a different operating system. Your brain processes information faster, makes connections others miss, and feels emotions more intensely.
The problem isn't your brain. The problem is that you're running high-performance software on a system designed for something else—and nobody gave you the manual.
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What looks like:
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Forgetting appointments you care about
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Starting 10 projects and finishing none
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Feeling bored and overwhelmed at the same time
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Being called "too sensitive" or "too much"
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Constant mental noise you can't turn off
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What it actually is:
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Executive function differences (not laziness)
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Interest-based motivation (not lack of discipline)
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Emotional intensity (not weakness)
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Hyperfocus and distractibility (not inconsistency)
DO THESE SOUND FAMILIAR?
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Emotional & Social
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Masking/Social Camouflage - Suppressing your natural behavior just to get through the day
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Emotional Dysregulation - Intense reactions that feel too big, too fast
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Rejection Sensitivity (RSD) - Perceived criticism feels like a gut punch
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Impulsivity in Speech - Interrupting because thoughts fire faster than you can hold them
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Difficulty Reading Social Cues - Misinterpreting people and replaying conversations for hours
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Physical & Mental
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Internal Restlessness/Anxiety - Your body won't settle even when you want to rest
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Sleep Disturbances - Waking unrefreshed no matter how long you sleep
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Overthinking/Rumination - Persistent negative mental loops you can't escape
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Low Frustration Tolerance - Easily overwhelmed by tasks others find simple
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Chronic Fatigue or Burnout - Mental and physical exhaustion from constantly compensating
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Executive Function
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Starting tasks feels impossible - Even things you want to do
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Time blindness - Hours vanish or drag depending on interest level
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Decision paralysis - Too many options = shutdown
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Working memory issues - Forgetting what you were doing mid-task
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Task switching difficulty - Can't transition smoothly between activities
WHY ADHD IS EXHAUSTING
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It's not the ADHD itself that's exhausting. It's the constant effort to appear "normal."
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You're running background processes 24/7:
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Monitoring your behavior (Am I talking too much? Too loud? Too weird?)
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Compensating for executive function gaps (lists, alarms, reminders that don't work)
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Managing emotional intensity (hiding feelings to avoid being "too much")
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Forcing focus on things your brain finds unstimulating (while beating yourself up for struggling)
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Masking is survival. But it's also slow-motion burnout.
And here's the part nobody talks about: Many people with ADHD also develop hypervigilance, anxiety, and trauma responses from years of feeling like they're failing at basic life tasks.
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The beliefs get embedded:
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"I'm lazy"
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"I'm unreliable"
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"I always let people down"
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"Something is fundamentally wrong with me"
HOW I TREAT ADHD
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I don't treat ADHD as something to "fix." I treat the beliefs, patterns, and nervous system responses
that developed from living with undiagnosed or poorly supported ADHD.
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Clinical Hypnotherapy
Accesses your subconscious to reprogram beliefs like "I'm lazy" or "I always mess things up." We reframe past experiences where you were misunderstood or punished for ADHD traits, and install new neural pathways that support your actual strengths.
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Advanced EFT/Tapping
Regulates your nervous system in real time. ADHD often comes with chronic stress and hypervigilance. EFT calms the activation, releases shame and self-judgment stored in your body, and helps you process the emotional overwhelm that comes with RSD and emotional dysregulation.
Together, these approaches don't "cure" ADHD. They help you work WITH your brain instead of fighting it. They release the shame, regulate the nervous system, and build systems that actually fit how you operate.
WHO THIS WORKS FOR
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This approach works especially well if you:
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Were diagnosed with ADHD as an adult
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Have been masking your entire life
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Experience RSD (rejection sensitive dysphoria)
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Struggle with shame and self-judgment around ADHD
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Have both ADHD and autism (AuDHD)
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Are burnt out from trying to be "normal"
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Want to work WITH your brain, not against it
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This might not be right if you:
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Want strategies only (apps, productivity hacks) - I offer belief work, not time management coaching
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Need ADHD diagnosis or medication management, I work alongside doctors, not instead of them
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Aren't willing to question the "I'm broken" narrative
WHAT CHANGES LOOK LIKE​
Early sessions (1-3):
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You start recognizing when you're masking vs being authentic
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Shame around ADHD traits begins to lift
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You catch yourself in negative self-talk and reframe it
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Middle sessions (4-6):
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You stop apologizing for being "too much"
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Task initiation feels less impossible
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Emotional reactions feel more manageable
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You build systems that work for YOUR brain, not neurotypical brains
Later sessions (6+):
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You trust yourself more
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Masking decreases—you show up more authentically
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Rejection sensitivity softens
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You communicate needs without shame
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You recognize your ADHD as difference, not deficit
Divya - India
My EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) session with Phil was a transformative experience. I've been struggling with stress, anxiety, and various mental blockages that I hadn’t fully recognized. Through his guidance, Phil helped me release these deeply rooted emotions. Afterward, I felt incredibly light, as if all the brain fog had lifted, leaving me with a newfound mental clarity and space for creativity.
Kirsten - Holland
Phil is a kind and intuitive EFT practitioner. He helped me immensely. He held the space for me to work through my stuff whilst being there when I needed guidance and support. Good session. Definitely recommend! Thank you Phil!
Merillee - USA
My time working with Phillip has changed my life. He is very good at getting to the real issue. He brings out exactly what needs to be resolved and then helps me to release the emotional patterns and thoughts that hold me back in life. Thank you Phillip for being there for me and making such a huge difference in my life.
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
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Can hypnotherapy help with ADHD focus and executive function?
Hypnotherapy doesn't change your neurology. It changes the beliefs and nervous system patterns that make ADHD harder. When you stop fighting yourself, focus often improves naturally.
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Will this replace my ADHD medication?
No. I work alongside your medication, not instead of it. Many clients find they need lower doses over time as their nervous system regulates, but that's a decision you make with your prescribing doctor.
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What if I'm not diagnosed but suspect I have ADHD?
We can still work together. I focus on the patterns and beliefs causing problems, regardless of diagnosis. If you want formal assessment, I can recommend specialists.
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Do you work with people who have both ADHD and autism (AuDHD)?
Yes. Many of my clients are AuDHD. The sensory overwhelm, social exhaustion, and masking patterns often overlap—and the same approaches work.
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How is this different from ADHD coaching?
ADHD coaching focuses on strategies (planners, routines, accountability). I focus on subconscious beliefs and nervous system regulation. Both are valuable—this goes deeper.
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Can you help with RSD (rejection sensitive dysphoria)?
Yes. RSD is one of the most painful parts of ADHD, and it responds well to EFT and hypnotherapy. We work directly with the nervous system's threat response to perceived rejection.
MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE WITH ADHD
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ADHD showed up early in my life—chaos, confusion, never quite fitting in. No one could name it. No framework to explain it. Just a constant mismatch between how I functioned and what the world expected.
But ADHD also gave me distinct advantages: creative leaps, pattern recognition, emotional depth. If those strengths had been recognized earlier, everything could have been different.
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I know what it's like to:
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Feel like you're failing at basic adult tasks
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Mask so hard you forget who you are underneath
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Get called "lazy" when you're actually overwhelmed
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Start 100 projects and finish none
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Feel emotions so intensely it's physically painful
It’s not that you don’t understand. It’s that something isn’t connecting.”
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Imagine your mind like a circuit board, full of pathways, switches, and fuses. Most are working. You know the information is there. You know what you want to do. But one crucial fuse isn’t firing. The signal doesn’t bridge the gap.
You’re left in a strange limbo: aware, capable, but stuck. Not because you’re broken but because the system is overloaded, miswired, or paused mid-loop.
This is what executive dysfunction feels like. It’s not laziness. It’s not lack of effort. It’s a moment where intention and action lose their handshake.
I'm not guessing at what you're experiencing. I've lived it.
And I've learned how to work WITH my ADHD brain, not by becoming neurotypical, but by rewiring the shame, regulating the nervous system, and building systems that actually fit how I operate.
READY TO START?
Book a free 20-minute consultation. We'll talk about what you're struggling with and whether this approach is right for you.