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You might recognise
yourself here.
These are not clinical categories. They are the real, human experiences that bring people to me. Read them in the language you actually use about yourself.
01
Anxiety
The kind that never fully switches off, creating isolation and panic.
Anxiety feels like something is about to happen, or a situation is going to get out of hand and you wont be able to deal with it, even though you can see nothing is there, but interally, it just never turns off,
Its like a room has a spider in it, you dont know where, you have looked, you cant see it but it is there or that look from someone means danger, you dont know what you have done, but you make it into that.
Anxiety is not just worrying. For many people it is a constant low hum, a sense of waiting for something to go wrong, even when everything is fine around you. It can look like overthinking, people-pleasing, perfectionism, avoiding situations that feel unsafe and isolation from society.
The body plays a huge role. Anxiety lives in the nervous system, which is why talking about it often only helps so much. So working directly with the body's stress response, reducing the physical charge that keeps anxiety in place.
Always anticipating the next problem, even in calm moments
Racing thoughts that will not slow down at night
Physical symptoms: tight chest, shallow breath, knotted stomach
Avoiding things that might trigger the feeling
02
Hypervigilance
Always watching. Never resting. This is not the same as anxiety
Hypervigilance is a branch of Anxiety but this can happen when you are walking in the sunny countryside, or alone in the house, the drone of something isnt right, its like the darkened room, where you are completely safe, but you know a fly is in the room, somewhere, somehow. now thats where you whole existance lives, you mind cant stop listening, searching or thinking..
Hypervigilance is not anxiety, though people often confuse them. Anxiety is about what might happen. Hypervigilance is a state of constant alertness, scanning for danger that the body has learned to expect.
It often develops after trauma, chronic stress, or a childhood where you needed to read the room to stay safe. The nervous system did its job perfectly and now cannot stop.
Constantly reading people's faces, voices and moods
Struggling to relax even in genuinely safe environments
Startling easily, difficulty sleeping, always "on"
Exhausted by the effort of simply being in social situations
03
Low Self-Worth
No matter what I achieve, it never feels like enough.
Lack of self‑worth is the belief that you are not good enough, no matter the evidence that you are. if you have heard yourself say these?
im not good enough, I dont belong here, you have impostor syndrome and your boundaries are always being pushed inwards and you never say NO
Low self-worth is not the same as low confidence. Confidence can be situational. Self-worth goes deeper, it is the belief, often formed very early, that you are somehow less than. Not quite right. Not quite enough.
It often comes from things said (or not said) in childhood. From comparisons. From critical voices that got internalised.
Achieving things but never feeling proud or satisfied
Constant comparison to others and always coming up short
Difficulty accepting compliments or positive feedback
An inner critic that is far harsher than you would be to anyone else
04
Adult ADHD Challenges
You're lazy." "You're not intelligent." "Why can't you just sit down and be quiet.
ADHD has complex challenges for the person that has it, but when you then have you peers, in early life, giving you stressful comments, social situations causing traumatic memories based on a unregulated Chemical issue, being misdiagnosed and having to deal with the fall out.. all create trauma and challenges.
Most adults with ADHD carry something beyond the ADHD itself, they carry the weight of having been misunderstood for years. Told they were lazy. Told they were not trying. Told they were difficult, disruptive, a problem to be managed.
Those experiences leave marks. Real ones.
This is not about removing ADHD. It is about reclaiming the sense of self that got buried underneath everyone else's misunderstanding of it.
A lifetime of being told you are not trying hard enough
Shame around focus, organisation, and follow-through
Emotional dysregulation that goes beyond what others seem to experience
A sense of being fundamentally different and that being a bad thing
05
Life Traumas & Limiting Beliefs
The experiences that shaped your memories and the beliefs they left behind
From the womb all the way to 6 years old, we are watching, feeling, learning and taking in everything around us.
The experiences in your young life will create beliefs from that time in life, where you didnt have the resources or the strategies to deal with those moments. Unlike you now, who is bigger and seen different ways to solve something..
Trauma does not have to be a single dramatic event. For many people it is the accumulation of smaller things, the criticism that came too often, the parent who was not present, the teacher who humiliated you in front of the class, the relationship that chipped away at who you were.
These experiences form beliefs. About safety. About worth. About what you can expect from the world. And those beliefs run quietly in the background, shaping decisions and reactions long after the original experiences are over.
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My EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) session with Phil was a transformative experience. I've been struggling with stress, anxiety, and various mental blockages that I hadn’t fully recognized. Through his guidance, Phil helped me release these deeply rooted emotions. Afterward, I felt incredibly light, as if all the brain fog had lifted, leaving me with a newfound mental clarity and space for creativity.
Divya
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